Sunday, November 15, 2009
"Parenthood" is something that many many people experience but not many live up to. I believe parenthood is a job that requires a lot of responsibility, time & patience from both parents. Now I am fully aware of how hard it is out here today and I'm also aware that some people situations are different from others, such as financial stability, single parenthood, number of children, etc. But as I observe certain situations I have come to realize that a lot of people live outside their means. I know that everyone want the best for their children, but sometimes we must prioritize our children "WANTS" & "NEEDS". Like for instance people tend to buy expensive apparel, electronics, etc. but most of the time does your child really deserve it???
"Your children need your presence more than your presents".
I'm not implying that you shouldn't buy your children nice things, but what I am saying is that as parents we need to be more conservative with our spending and budget more. I think we should invest more into our children future instead of their present. Just think, a lot of money we spend on things today our children will outgrown anyway, so why not put more money into their future, like CD Bonds, life insurance, school tuition, academic programs, etc.
In my eyes time is the most important element in parenthood, time is "PRICELESS" because it does not cost a penny to "SPEND" time. "Kids spell love T-I-M-E". The more time you spend with your child the more opportunity you have to instill good morals & values in them. Also time & communication builds a comfort level and enhances the relationship with your child. Having a good relationship with your child is very important because when it becomes time for your child to express themselves or talk to you about things they're going through you want them to feel comfortable. Parents should be more upfront with their children because children today are a lot more advance & knowledgeable about things that we think they aren't. As a parent the last thing we want is for our child to consult with their peers about things that would be better advised by the parent.
Parents have the tendency to complain about the school systems & curriculum but truth be told school starts at home. I also believe that parents are more than just parents, we are teachers & the household is the classroom. If you're not satisfied with the progression that your child is making in school, I think that as parents we should go the extra step to make sure that our children improves in whatever area that they are struggling with. Of course if your child suffers from A.D.H.D, Dyslexia or any other learning disorder than that's another story.
"Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child".
If one does not discipline their child, he will not learn obedience and good manners. I've never been the type to tell people how to raise their children but it seems today that a lot of children lack respect and have behavior problems. Now I'm not saying you should abuse your child but discipline or some type of punishment is definitely necessary. What a lot of people don't realize is your child is a reflection of you. With that being said parents should be more cautious about what they say & do around their children. "Children hear what you say, but remember what you do".
"It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours".
Earlier I touched on people not living up to being good parents; especially in our culture. Now don't get me wrong I acknowledge everyone that works hard to provide for their children; especially single parents, I commend your hard work. Now-a-days parents tend to act more like a sibling or a friend to their child instead of a parent. Its always good to have that friendly like bond with your child however a child must still remain in a child's place. Parents sometimes think their children can do no wrong. Children have been known to take advantage of parents when they know that the parent will always side with them. When a situation arises and your child is accused of being at fault, we should evaluate the situation thoroughly before always taking our child side.
No one is saying that being a parent is easy, we learn as we go; you're going to have good times & you're going to have hard times but everyone knows experience is the best teacher. Sometimes you have to put things into proper perspective & what I've come up with is a good parent is one who does not hinder their child (don't handicap your children by making their lives easy) but give them the proper preparation for adulthood.
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